Fear is as natural and human as the air we breathe. It’s a gift, an ancient survival mechanism that has kept our ancestors safe from real and present dangers. But in our modern world, where threats are often more psychological than physical, fear can sometimes take on a role it was never meant to play — that of a tyrant, ruling over our choices and limiting our lives.
The truth is, we don’t need to be bossed around by fear. Instead, we can choose to create a healthy relationship with it. This begins by acknowledging fear as a part of us, one that deserves to be heard and understood. Just as we would soothe a frightened child, we can soothe our own fears with compassion and patience.
When fear rises, we can listen to its message without letting it control us. We can love ourselves through the fear, reminding ourselves that it's okay to feel scared, but that we are capable of moving forward anyway. This is not about suppressing fear or pretending it doesn’t exist; it’s about recognizing its presence and then gently coaxing ourselves to do the scary thing anyway.
In these moments, we can connect to something deeper than our thoughts — a sense of trust in ourselves, in the process, and perhaps even in something greater than ourselves. Spirituality, whatever that means to you, can offer a well of strength and courage to draw from when fear threatens to overwhelm.
By cultivating a mindful relationship with fear, we empower ourselves to rise above it, to act in spite of it, and to grow from every experience. Fear is not the enemy; it’s a companion on the journey, one that we can guide with love, trust, and mindful awareness.
Practice
Bring to mind something that is causing you fear or anxiety. Notice where you feel this fear in your body. Is it in your chest, your stomach, or perhaps your throat?
As you inhale, imagine your breath traveling to the area where you feel the fear. As you exhale, let go of any tension you may be holding. Repeat this for a few breaths.
Silently, or out loud if you prefer, speak to your fear as if it were a frightened child. You might say, “I see you, and I understand that you’re trying to keep me safe. Thank you for protecting me, but I’m okay right now. Let’s move forward together.”
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